It was only after the 1981 passing of my Great Grandmother, Annie CARTER JACKSON (1898-1981), that I came to understand the depth of her presence in our family — she was truly the glue that held everyone and everything in place.
Grandma Jackson was everything a Grandmother should be ~ patient, wise, sweet and nurturing. Part of the reason I’ve been challenged in the quest to overcome my java-habit, is because as a child, Grandma Jackson would prepare me a very weak cup of hot tea with milk to make me think I was sharing a cup of coffee with her!
To this day, when I need comfort, I retreat to a cup of coffee and it pulls me back to a time when life was much simpler and I was surrounded by a clan of loving women.
Grandma Jackson was also known for her infamous Washington-Wilkes sayings, that though funny on the surface, carried very true meanings. Ironic how I still find myself quoting these in my daily life! My favorite Annie Saying is “A cow will need his tail to fan flies for more than one summer.”, which meant – don’t worry if someone does you wrong, they will soon need you again!
I can still remember Grandma’s long silver hair that she allowed me to style endlessly, hanging clothes on the line in her backyard in one of her favorite house-coats, wrapping her hand around my neck, with her tongue between her teeth, to braid my hair and bathing a tiny me in her kitchen sink.
The hymns she hummed constantly — at the most unexpected times — flow from my mouth to remind me that she is not far away. That I am still her special girl. I’ll Fly Away was her favorite:
One bright morning when this life is over,
I’ll fly away, Oh Glory
I’ll fly away; (in the morning)
Oh when I die, Hallelujah, by and by,
I’ll fly away (I’ll fly away)
Grandma Jackson crossed over on 10 July 1981, just three days after my 15th birthday.
I am blessed to have had Annie Carter Jackson with me, and grateful for her influence, as it is a key motivator for how as a woman, I live my life.
I miss you dearly and hope that I have made you proud Grandma.
Luckie (aka little Dona)
[Note: The featured image of Grandma was a candid shot snapped by her Son, the late Rev. Ronald Jackson, on one of our frequent Family fishing trips!:-]